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Before "The Facebook" a person could easily define their relationship status quickly, cleverly, and discretely without backlash from an EX, curiosity from inquisitive friends/family, or being booted from the "friends with benefits program." Now a person's status must be a strategic part of a communications plan. Who you tell, how much you tell, when you tell, and what exactly you tell your FB friends seems to require a PR agent. One mistake could mean public humility, premature judgment or complete misunderstandings.
Read the screenshot below (hopefully you can see it):
Take for instance Mr. Kevin. After experiencing what seemed to be a disconnect from his fiancé Shannon, he decided to change his status from ENGAGED to SINGLE. What the hell is wrong with that? Hmmm... nothing at all, unless you are Shannon and you are still FB friends with Kevin. Even without naming who Kevin was engaged to, Kevin's FB friend Jessica and the other people who celebrated the engagement know saw the status change and commented. So changing his status was a broadcast message telling people that Shannon has either returned the ring, pawned it off, sold it on Craig's list, or thrown it into a large body of water to never be retrieved again.
Shannon's response to the status change was an obvious cry for "privacy" and a directive to Jess and all of Kevin's friends. (Surely she was emphasizing the "F*CK OFF" comment towards any and all of Kevin's female friends, right??). Notice the response from Kevin's friend Jon. He says, "Congrats dude!!" as the first response to Kevin's announcement. That's the same response that happens after a guy gets officially divorced (apparently). A single guy seems to be celebrated by other guys... whereas single women are often judged or consoled by other women.
So what have we learned from this simple screenshot saga of Kevin and Shannon...
We know love will drive us crazy, but "The Facebook" puts more "nuts" than a Snicker's bar in our relationships whether past, present or future.
We must be cautious about how we manage our relationship communications. It doesn't take much for a good thing to become spoiled and rotten like little girls in child beauty pageants (or any kid that has been shown on MTV's Sweet 16).
So in this light, TheNutsCracker is changing his writing status too. From Retired to Back in the Game ala Jordan and Jay-Z. Speaking of Jay-Z... hmmm should we address this baby with Beyonce??
TheNutsCracker
@ LuvaNuts.com
"Celebrating Freedom Friday with cocktails, but there will be no cake bashing like Jennifer on Season 3 of Basketball Wives."
Posted by TheNutsCracker at October 27, 2011 
Categories: General Commentary
Tags: Facebook single women status
Categories: General Commentary
Tags: Facebook single women status
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